J Query Love

There is a limit on how close a couple can be to each other if they are not also close to God.  Not only individually close to God, but close as a couple as well.

In our Marriage Counseling practice most of the couples who come to us want a deeper spiritual life together. How does a couple get closer to God?

The first thing to do is plan/prepare. Sit down as a couple to talk about the things that have made you feel close to God in the past or that you think would make you close to God in the present. Make two lists.  It would be common for each spouse to have different ideas. Since this article is about getting closer to God as a couple, look at the two lists to see if there is anything you could do together.

Set yourselves up for success. See if there is an item that both of you have on your lists (for instance prayer). Talk about how you both like to pray, when to pray, and where to pray. The goal is to come into agreement on how you would like to go about praying as a couple. There is an old saying that couples that pray together stay together.  Read more... (675 words, estimated 2:42 mins reading time)

“How to mend your Marriage when the Bank is breaking”.

Financial stress is overtaking many marriages today. It can be the straw that breaks the camel’s back when there are other issues in a marriage. Financial worries invite couples to play the “blame game”. No one is taking their own portion of responsibility, each just blames the other.

Whether it is a job loss, overspending, unexpected bills or a myriad of other challenges, this is a time to come together. It is not a time to point fingers. It is more important to plan together how to overcome the situation than to concentrate on whose fault it is.

There are times when both spouses share in the responsibility and times when one has had a greater influence in the degrading of financial stability. In either case, it is important for the two of you to be part of the solution.

In most marriages one of the spouses is a spender and one is a saver. This is quite typical. Often the reason for the differences is previous life experiences. But when you are already in financial crisis, it is imperative to join forces in order to get your feet back on the ground.

If it took a long time to get into the “financial mess” it may not be a quick turnaround. The time to achieve financial health will be shortened when you work together rather than focusing on the problem itself.  Read more... (692 words, estimated 2:46 mins reading time)

Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships are acknowledged by the state or by religious authority. It is often viewed as a contract.

People marry for many reasons, but usually one or more of the following: legal, social, and economic stability; the formation of a family unit; procreation and the education and nurturing of children; legitimizing sexual relations; public declaration of love; or to obtain citizenship

 

It’s truly sad to hear of marriages in trouble. No body want trouble, but trouble does happen. You may ask your self “Can I save my marriage?” My answer is yes, why? Because when you ask yourself “Can I save my marriage?” means you do want to save your marriage. Because if don’t or never think of that question, there is no way you can save your marriage, but how? So I will give you tips on how to save your marriage.  These tips you and your spouse can apply today to start the healing process for your relationship and marriage.

1. More communication

Communication is important in our live, so it same to marriage. If you fail to communicate with your partner, it’s about time your marriage will over.  The most common cause to marriage breakdown is fail to communicate or miscommunication between spouses. When problems arise, people stop talking to each other. Simply put, a marriage cannot be saved if the couple can’t figure things out together. When a new problem appears, a married couple needs to talk more, not less.  Read more... (472 words, estimated 1:53 mins reading time)

Are the Women Profiled Real?

Do not use an International Marriage Agency based on the number of beautiful women profiled on the website. Any agency that has a high percentage of beautiful women should be suspect. Beautiful women are naturally rare and beautiful women are the most sought-after. So it would only make sense that the most attractive women would have the highest turnover in a marriage agency. The best-looking women will find a man sooner because they have more suitors and in turn will be more difficult for a marriage agency to replace because there are fewer beautiful women available. To work around this it is a common practice for foreign marriage agencies to show beautiful women as unattached regardless if whether they are married or with a boyfriend. Two other common practices used to inflate the beauty and quantity of women in an agency is to steal photos from other marriage and model agencies´ websites and to illicit arrangements with local photographers for the purchase of personal photos of women without their consent or knowledge. Beautiful women profiled in a marriage agency are meaningless if they are not available and, unfortunately, this is often the case. Many international marriage agencies will do whatever it takes to lure beautiful women to join. For example, here is an ad placed by a Barranquilla marriage agency in the local Colombia paper El Heraldo.  Read more... (1375 words, estimated 5:30 mins reading time)