J Query Love

I would like to liken marriage to a car cruising on a highway or freeway. This analogy helps to understand marriage, but it is not intended to answer all questions or explain every aspect of marriage. The freeway or highway has several dynamics, and we will use those dynamics to explain marriage.

1. A car is designed by someone else. Marriage was designed by God in the beginning of creation, and was handed down to Adam and Eve according to Moses’ account of creation in Genesis 2. Marriage is not human-made.

2. A car comes with an operational manual. Unfortunately, marriage does not come with a user manual. The escalation of divorce, separation, all forms of abuse, and unhappiness in marriage occur because there is no operator or user’s manual. I would like to suggest that the Bible is well positioned to serve as the operator’s or user’s manual for marriage. The Bible deals and promotes positive and good human relations, such as, love, peace, joy, longsuffering, kindness, forgiving spirit, temperance, and etc. In general, and those are necessary and critical qualities to keep marriage healthy.

3. A U-turn is prohibited in the highway. Marriage was intended to be a one way, and a way of no return. One cannot enter marriage when they have not dealt with the question of permanency. The Bible teaches that God hates divorce (Mal. 2:16), and divorce was allowed because of hardness of people’s hearts (Matt. 19:7-8).  Read more... (834 words, estimated 3:20 mins reading time)

Tension is built up on a wave of emotion. Emotion fuels the tension and vice versa. Every story needs tension to some degree or other because as a rwiter you want to grab the emotions of your readers. Tension is one way to do just that.

So just what is tension? It is where your character is being pulled in two, even three directions at once.

Imagine Lizzy Battlebridge, the heroine in our tale of everyday country folk, falling for Tom Roding the tractor mechanic. She has been giving him the eye and knows he is interested. Problem is she’s been seeing Ralph the postman for five years now and is really in love with him. Or is she?

This, of course, is the classic love triangle, but in our story we must show the emotions that Lizzie goes through as she is torn between Tom and Ralph. We must show the excitement and even danger of her new love, whilst at the same time telling the reader what she goes through whilst trying to sort out who she will end up with. Plus there is the fear of having to tell Ralph, assuming he hasn’t cottoned on already (but maybe he has!), and her agonies over what Ralph might do and say when she does pluck up the courage to tell him.  Read more... (661 words, estimated 2:39 mins reading time)

This argument has been raised nth number of times and no one has ever been able to win this debate.

In India, arranged marriages have always enjoyed an upper hand. Parents think that it is there utmost duty to find the most suitable match for their sons or daughters by looking through matrimonial or other sources. Though perception is changing slowly and lots of youngsters are opting for love marriages, it is still opposed in small towns and cities. The outgoing youth of India today feels that they are mature enough to take such decisions all by themselves. Moreover, they feel that the person, whom they are planning to spend their rest of life with, should be of their own choice. But looking at the number of divorces and separations in urban India, the question of whether love marriages can score over arranged marriages remains unanswered.

Education and media have played an important role in popularizing the concept of love marriages in India.

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In a candid and frank interview with site owner Matt Fuller, this inspiring success story, against all the odds can give fellow entrepreneurs and online businesses that are starting out some real encouragement.

Can you tell our readers of your experience with the internet and online dating? “Prior to starting this website one year ago, I had no knowledge or business experience with the internet, in fact I had nothing to do with the online dating industry at all”

So what inspired you to do this considering you came from a completely non related industry in the offline world. “The internet has always been of some curiosity to me. I mean, what offline business can reach millions of potential customers and can do so from just one location, I can’t think of any. So
I began to research online businesses with no real intention of the online dating industry at that time”

What was the final turning point that made you start an online dating service? “This might sound a little strange, however, I chose the singles industry because of its competitive nature, meaning that there was a great challenge to try and compete with the likes of aussiematchmaker and rsvp. I also new that if I did succeed that online dating was very lucrative and wasn’t going to become obsolete any time soon. Online dating type searches on the internet are in the top 5 searched online industries in the world and this was the determining factor as to why I decided to go this way.  Read more... (597 words, estimated 2:23 mins reading time)